How Can We Release Past Hurts... For Good?

December Dragons: revisiting and releasing the past.

Hi Friend,

Sic Sunt Dracones (‘Here Be Dragons”).

Welcome to this month’s Meditation Theme: “December Dragons: Revisiting and Releasing Past Hurts.”

In a way, this is a continuation of last month’s theme of releasing labels—with extra spice added to the mix.

The Dragon as a Symbol of Our Experience

Dragons are interesting. A long time ago, I brought a small, gorgeous-looking statue of a dragon. When someone asked about it, I said it symbolized my emotional pain. (I was possibly a bit emo at the time.)

Anyway, if we stick with the metaphor that dragons represent certain aspects of our experience, then it stands to reason that that representation itself can change.

The scale of experience

Obviously, not all painful experience is created equally. This is true even within ourselves. Something that might have felt terrible to you a decade ago (for instance, a breakup) might not evoke any emotional reaction nowadays.

Something that is currently still causing emotional pain (whether it just happened now or a long time ago) could look like this:

Whereas the dragon might look much nicer and more cuddly after the pain has been released:

If you think about something that is currently bothering you, on a scale of scary monster (10, a.k.a. the first image) to cuddly teddy-bear who can breathe fire (1, a.k.a. the second image), where does your emotional pain fall?

So, pray tell, how does one release past hurts?

Asking for a friend because this is totally not relevant for me right now. Not one bit. Okay, who am I kidding? This is definitely something I’m currently dealing with.

Perhaps you are, too? I’ve noticed a pattern of unresolved past issues coming up at the moment, not just in me but in others as well. Suddenly, people from the past are popping up left and right, and they bring with them whatever hasn’t yet been resolved in our connection with each other.

I have asked Niv about their take on this and for what it’s worth, I have to say that I felt much better after the channeling session than before. If you are currently dealing with unresolved hurt, I hope listening or reading through Niv’s advice (which you can find below) also brings you some relief.

Warmly,
Louise

Niv on How to Release Past Hurt

“There are, as you well know, many different modalities for dealing with hurt that you have incurred in your life. Now, in a way, we would not focus on the how of moving past hurt. We would instead focus on levels of energy or of perceiving reality.

This can be extremely tricky to communicate. For it is very true that from a human perspective, these hurts happen. And sometimes it's a misunderstanding. Sometimes the other person maybe didn't even do something wrong. But there are many times when it wasn't right what the other person did (from a human perspective).

And so when we talk to humans about looking at things from different perspectives, it can feel hostile to the human perspective that hurt has indeed been done. And it can sometimes also be used as what has now been termed spiritual bypassing.

So this is not what we mean. For as long as you are in a human body, you naturally perceive the world through the human senses. Now, you do have other senses beyond the five senses that are typically acknowledged. We would like you to turn into one that we could call the “wellness sense.” And that is basically the sense of you that is constantly attuned to the wellness that is underlying experience in life.

Whenever we say wellness underlies life, it can... When you're going through something hard, that can feel like we're really not seeing you—we're not seeing how hard it is.

Maybe a way to think about it is that you live someplace where you have access to food. Yet even though you have reliable access to food, that doesn't mean that you're never hungry and that it's not uncomfortable when you're hungry. Maybe you're in a meeting and it's running late and you couldn't have your dinner, maybe you didn't have time to eat.

This experience of discomfort in the moment is very, very real, and it doesn't change the underlying fact that there's more than enough food for you. So this is maybe a way of looking at life and knowing that, yes, the hurt that you have felt in the past is there. And there's also this underlying wellness.

You can always go to this proverbial fridge that is filled with all the good stuff. And in fact, what we would encourage you right now is to close your eyes if you're in a place where it's safe for you to do that. And if not, just come back to this later when you are in a place to do this.

Now imagine in front of you, there's this beautiful fridge. It's like the most gorgeous fridge you have ever seen. It's in this gorgeous golden color. By gold, we don't mean bling-bling gold, but sparkling, beautiful, just this beautiful gold, very nourishing, very warm. You feel yourself so drawn to this fridge. Now, as you walk toward this fridge, think of one past hurt or emotion relating to something that just seems to stick around and pick something that's maybe not overly intense. If we were on a scale from 1-10, where 10 is super traumatic and one barely registers, maybe pick four or five, just something that would be nice to let go of and it also doesn't negatively impact your life that much. Think of that event and think of the emotions you felt, what happened.

As you do that, you open this fridge, and in this fridge, you see all these gorgeous, gorgeous little bottles made out of glass, so they show what's inside. There are all these beautiful different colors, and they all seem to be sparkling and emanating different energies. You know that each one of them has their own vibration.

You intuitively know that there's one of them here, or maybe two or three, that are basically the counter-agent to this hurt that you've experienced. Grab the one or the ones that most call to you, and now imagine drinking this in. Drinking in this beautiful energy that's coming from this bottle and allow the energy from that bottle, this wonderful positive energy, to basically override whatever not so pleasant energy you had stuck in your energetic body from this past experience.

You're now noticing the energy that you drank in from the bottle is spreading all throughout your body. You might tingle because it feels so good. With it, it carries a broader perspective. You might have heard some stories about people when they cross over to the other side and how they look at their lives. There's a welling up that happens in us as we talk about that because it's so beautiful. Because from that more expanded space, you don't forgive anything because there is nothing to forgive. It's just you experiencing you from the perspective that all of you are oneness. It's okay to not experience that right now. It's really okay.

It's okay to have all these human emotions, and you can play around with this counter-agent, this energetic counter-agent that's in this bottle from this fridge to give you some more of the sense of this broader perspective. Bring that into your life.

What's really challenging about being in a body, it's a bit like when you see horses and they have blinders on because you don't want them to spook, it's not quite like that. But also, if you had access to all the information that were available to you before you incarnated, you would not be able to function in this body.

So in a way, you need to close yourself a bit off to this broader perspective to be able to function. And that creates some of these lingering issues that people sometimes experience where they just can't forgive something. And in a way that is because there's less access to this broader perspective while you're still in a human body.

So all of this is completely normal. It's all right to feel this. And just play around with whatever helps you feel better. If you're not ready to forgive, then don't. Sometimes forgiveness happens when people decide that they just can't be bothered with it anymore.

That's actually a very human way of forgiving. Because it's not like this broad universal perspective of we're all one and there's nothing to forgive because it's all love. It's not that. It's more just like, “Okay, you know what? I don't have time for this. I just want to focus on the good things in my life,” and that's perfectly fine. Maybe the way to overcome past hurts is to just realize it's really boring. Yeah, just really feeling into that boredom of like, “Oh, this again, really. This old person again who did that thing to me 10 years ago and this is the most boring rerun of a soap opera ever. I'm somehow in the cast. You know what? I'm just going to quit being in the cast. I'll switch to a different channel. We have this amazing nature program on there. There's this beautiful sunset and gorgeous waterfall. You know what? I'm good. I'm done with this.”

With that, my friend, we wish you a wonderful day. Remember to be really kind to yourself, really loving. You, of all people, deserve love and support and care. We'll talk to you again very, very soon.”